Author Archives: tony

Trustbuilding begins with Trustworthy

Some themes just keep coming up. On the common competencies actively sought in interview, I’ve coached many hundreds of people. One of these is trust-building. Trust-building is such a strong buzzword in an age obsessed with seeing and identifying both internal and external stakeholders as ‘customers’. It seems so important in an age of competitiveness, where […]

Brave Conversations

Brave and unhurried conversations between honest counter-parties have the power to transform. A topic like ‘affirmative action’ has masses of sub-arguments on either side. Or so an eloquent young thinker and author learned as a child, from discussions he had with his intelligent schizophrenic mother, potentially impacting his education. This launched a lifetime dedication to […]

Normal? No Such Thing!

What’s a normal brain? Normal behaviour? Do we over-pathologize? In fact, there is no such thing as ‘normal’. So proclaim Avram Holmes and Lauren Patrick of Yale University psychology department. They’ve discovered something that veteran educators and proper coaches have known for years.  Meanwhile, the world is busy prescribing drugs to kids to slow them down or speed […]

Combine the Senses

Poring over your notes again? It won’t stops the brain blanks.   When it comes to pitches and job interviews, most people think hard about their looks, their hair, their handshakes and their voice. Many people earnestly do their ‘due diligence’ and prepare a dozen narratives that bear witness to the required competencies. Many also sit down […]

Forget Affirmations!

There are always grim decisions to make. The more you’re paid, the more likely you have to face ‘impossible’ constraints or conflict. Some would have you believe that positive thinking is all you need. Just be disciplined and envisage, decontaminate your belief systems, chant affirmations, manifest-manifest-manifest, and voila! Sadly, despite all the gurus’ claims, this is not […]

Surviving the C-Suite

Recently, I coached an MD for a leadership assessment with the amazing organizational psychologist, Renee Bellamy Booth, who co-wrote with Keith Wyche a guide to executive life. The MD was successful and is now enjoying his influential post. For those at the top, here’s Booth and Wyche’s advice: Reality 1:  What made you successful then, won’t […]